“If you’re lonely when you’re alone, you’re in bad company.”
– Jean-Paul Sartre
When I go out on weekends I usually do so by myself. I don’t dislike my friends or anything like that, but I do feel that we have incongruent expectations for what a night out should be like. As a result I started going out by myself. Going out alone has become second nature, I even vacation outside the country without anyone else.
Once you get used to it, rolling around by yourself is a lot of fun. It also opens up a world of new opportunities that you can’t experience with a crew. From my experiences I’ve discovered that going out solo is:
- A great way to meet new people.
Because I’m by myself I have to actually go interact with others. When I’m out with friends I’ll usually only socialize with people already in my circle. Alone I’m forced to talk to strangers.
- An easy way to get invited to more and better events.
It doesn’t take a genius to figure out that the more new friends I make the more new places I get invited. Back in March I was swamped with places to go and things to do.
- The best way to meet girls.
Going out with ten other dudes is the perfect recipe for a sausage fest. There also always seems to be at least one guy in every crew who either gets horrible alcohol poisoning or is an annoying weirdo, thus ruining everyone’s night.
If you want to have an interesting experience and jump outside your comfort zone, I highly recommend going out alone for at least one night this weekend. It’s challenging, it’s fun, and it’s a great way to become more comfortable with yourself.