“I have an abundance mentality: When people are genuinely happy at the successes of others, the pie gets larger.”
– Stephen Covey
Why winners win and losers lose
When you develop a winning circle of friends and acquaintances you forget about the problems that average people deal with. The idea that you wouldn’t have a supportive network is alien to you.
That’s because winners focus on building others up while losers obsess over tearing people down.
Who are the biggest gossips?
They’re usually losers. The least successful people I know are also the most negative and harmful. It isn’t a coincidence.
Why would someone successful want everyone else to fail?
There are a million other blogs for men. Some of them are more interesting than this one. And that’s great. The more people who succeed the better.
If one of my peers builds a massive blog and then links to my site I get a huge traffic boost.
If no one does well we all stagnate.
Whenever someone who is taking action and developing a project contacts me for help, I assist them for free. My inbox is filled with guys who are astounded by the fact that I refused to take their money.
Invest 10 hours into helping 10 guys become successful. They’ll tell all their friends about you. No marketing firm will ever sell you advertising that effective.
How generosity will make you rich
Yesterday I wrote an article about earning five-star feedback on oDesk. Getting good ratings on freelancing sites is niche market. I could have written a 500-word introduction, beefed up my guide, and thrown it on Amazon for a couple bucks.
By marketing it on my site I could have made an easy $50 to $100.
But that would have been scummy.
Instead I threw the information up for free and thought nothing of it. When I woke up this morning several people had emailed me, saying my advice helped them land their first oDesk job. Upon hearing this my first thought was “Good.”
I didn’t get mad about “increased competition” or whatever. There are plenty of opportunities for everyone.
Do you think that some guy who made money off your advice isn’t going to buy the book you write?
Teach a man something that improves his life. It will build a lifelong relationship.
How frugality will make you poor
Your returns are directly tied to your initial investment. Put nothing in, get nothing out.
If you refuse to help others don’t be surprised when they ignore you.
I’ve seen a lot of guys who try to work in a bubble, they want to take from others but are too cheap to give back.
Almost every week some guy with a blog no one has ever heard of will email me, demanding that I link to his shoddy website. He ends up in my spam folder never to be seen again.
Harassing people and wasting their time will alienate you really quickly. Yet guys use these techniques and then wonder why people avoid them.
The biggest factor that drives blog traffic isn’t SEO or spam comments. It’s a solid reputation.
Look at the websites you visit. Are you there because of an aggressive and obnoxious marketing campaign? Of course not.
Same thing with products. Your last 10 luxury purchases were probably influenced by someone’s opinion. I’d walked past the juicer section of Wal-Mart a million times without ever buying anything. But five minutes of reading Fit Juice convinced me to rush out and buy one.
Your name is your most valuable commodity. Raise its value by being known as a trusted source. Don’t sell yourself short and tarnish your reputation for some short-term profits.