“Rather be dead than cool.”
– Nirvana, Stay Away
In the self improvement community there is a common fantasy in which an individual betters themselves while the rest of their peers stagnate into oblivion. While I get the appeal of this concept, and used to even buy into it, I don’t think it’s necessarily true.
For every high school quarterback who grows up to work at Kinkos there are plenty of naturally cool guys who grow up and do well for themselves. Two of the coolest guys I know were college athletes who launched successful businesses after finishing school. To the butthurt outsider both men “had it easy,” yet anyone who actually talks to them will quickly realize that nothing came easy to them.
When I go on forums I’ll sometimes see threads bashing celebrities for “being beta with women.” Inevitably a poster will write about he’s superior to the famous person in question because he’s read The Game and the celebrity probably hasn’t.
Instead of hating on people for having a natural aptitude towards something, try and learn from them. Sitting around and bashing someone will get you nowhere, studying and emulating them will.