“Creativity can release you from the limitations that the world has constructed around you; the everyday, mundane, 9-5 jail cell where everybody is waiting for the weekend to party so they can get outside of their head.”
– Robert LaSardo
I’ll always love America. As long as you aren’t mediocre it’s a fun place. My biggest complaint about the United States has always been something that I had control over anyway. Logistics is, by far, the worst aspect of living here.
When men complain about American women or culture they are actually complaining about their surroundings. I’ve never seen anyone from Manhattan or Vegas claim that American girls are ugly and overweight. Most of that hate stems from places you shouldn’t live in anyway. All the negativity comes from guys who live in Altoona, Pennsylvania and work at H&R Block. Most of the guys who complain about American girls aren’t much better than the women they love to hate.
With that said, your environment does have influence over you. Iowa is a nice place with a lot of friendly people, but there really isn’t a whole lot to do. The state population is 3 million. The largest city is just over 200,000. From there things drop exponentially. There are entire counties containing less than 5,000 people.
When you live in a world that small you deal with a lot of limitations. Outside of college you don’t really get to be around a lot of cool or adventurous people. A guy who’s entire life revolves around knocking up his high school sweetheart and getting some lame job in his hometown isn’t going to be interested in learning about online business or copywriting.
I had to master a lot of stuff on my own because no one else was around to help. I would have killed to have a friend who wanted to make an affiliate blog or start a writing company. That kind of stuff wasn’t really available though. Most of my peers were more interested in drinking beer and playing video games.
Rather than joining them, or sitting around and complaining about how much America sucks, I decided to grind my way out. I’d work all day and come home to develop my business. At my regular job I’d skip eating lunch so that I could read books like How to Get Rich. On weekends I’d do odd jobs, respond to Craigslist writing ads, and tinker with my Fiverr account. Most of the time I didn’t even bother going out. It wasn’t worth it.
4:59 on a Friday afternoon is only the end of the work week if you’re cool with being poor. It always cracks me up when guys complain about the quality of their lives, yet spend their free time hitting up bars or amusing themselves in front of a screen. If you aren’t going to make any changes you can’t be that uncomfortable.
All the alpha male manly men who like to sit around and whine about meaningless drivel are losers. They obviously have the free time to sit on message boards and complain, meaning that they aren’t in the gym or hustling. There’s no mystery as to why their life sucks.
What to do if you’re in a bad spot
Here’s a quick little cheat sheet that I wrote up for anyone who is in a place they want to escape from.
1. Cut the entertainment.
I’ve been broke. And when I was I hustled. Working a normal job, roofing garages in the evening, and reading books at night. I didn’t have time to browse message boards, watch YouTube videos, or play games. I also managed to add extra zeros to the end of, what had been, a double-digit bank account.
2. Skip going out.
If all the girls in your area are ugly trolls who smell bad, as you’ve repeatedly mentioned in the comment section on various blogs, why are you still trying to have sex with them? As an experiment I stopped going out for a month and saved almost $500. That’s like a month’s rent in Asia.
3. Buy a book of puzzles.
Browsing the Internet is a massive time suck. There have been whole days where I got nothing done because of sites like Reddit. If you get bored and have some free time sit down and do some puzzles. I bought a ton of Search-a-Word Puzzles and work on them whenever I have nothing else to do. It’s better than mindlessly browsing your phone.
4. Find a place to move to and work towards getting there.
You won’t stay on track without a goal. Pick a place on the map that you’d like to live and then focus on getting there. Vietnam, Mexico, Las Vegas, New York City, there are a ton of cool places that are better than where you’re at.
If you aren’t happy with your situation fix it. Guys will sit around and complain all day, but very few of them will ever take any type of action. Don’t let yourself succumb to the throngs of whiners and losers. Step up and take action.